Saying “No” to the Default Life

What is a “default” life? It’s when you compromise your deepest values and authentic self-expression, for something you think  will keep you safe.

How does it feel to live a default life? Thoreau’s description of living a life of “quiet desperation” sums it up well.

How do you say “no” to a “status quo” life, especially when being responsible for ourselves requires that we do make compromises, that we must do things that we wouldn’t choose to if we had no responsibilities?

First, get clear and stay clear about your deepest values. That is essential. Those values are your True North. Use them to guide you. At times, you might choose to compromise a lesser value to be true to a deeper value. But when your life feels off-track, look at where you may or may not be true to yourself, and make adjustments.

Second, find a way to do what you love every week. If expressing your creativity is one of your values, honor it. Carve out at least a couple hours. Paint. Write. Fly. Take photos. Make collages. Write music. Sing. Play. Get inspired. Share your gifts with your friends.

Creative expression really is an act of defiance against living a status quo life. It keeps imagination and possibility alive!

Creativity is an act of defiance. - Twyla Tharp

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